Then, read your cards together and, as you do, divide them into three piles: fantasies you want to turn into reality (e.g., sex in an airplane lavatory) fantasies you want to keep that way (e.g., sex with your man and another woman) and fantasies that do nothing for one of the partners (e.g., sex with Big Bird).įinally, discard the pile of fantasies that turn a partner off. All of them, no matter how bestial, or politically taboo. Then write all your sex fantasies on three-by-five-inch cards. First, set the mood for a romantic evening with your partner.
